Imago Dialogue- does it solve problems?
I recently received the following question from a reader. It is specifically in reference to a demo my wife and I did in a video presentation ( viewable here) and is a general question that many have with regards to the purpose of the Imago Dialogue After discussing one’s feelings using Imago – what then? In other words, the problem or... [Read more of this article]
Whitney’s Last Exit
My latest article on Huffington Post- Whitney Houston’s death is yet another tragic ending for the life of a talented performer. While the cause of death is still uncertain, her turn to drug use during her tumultuous marriage sent her on a downward spiral that destroyed her reputation and ultimately her life. What lessons can we learn from... [Read more of this article]
Save Your Marriage
If your marriage is in crisis, the task of salvaging the relationship may appear daunting. In my experience of working with countless couples on the verge of relationship disaster, I have identified five proven steps to turn things around: Click here to read more of my latest article from Aish.com, a summary of my latest book, Is My Marriage... [Read more of this article]
Readers Respond to Angry Spouse
Two weeks ago I posted here about how to respond to your angry spouse. Readers had a lot to say about it. Below are some of the comments/questions and my response. Look forward to your continued feedback! I agree that it can be very helpful to view your spouse as a small, hurt, wounded child in pain (and vice-versa), rather than as your enemy who is... [Read more of this article]
How My Therapist Destroyed My Marriage
as printed in The Jewish Press Have you ever wondered what prompts couples to give up on their marriage? While there are certain events that can push a marriage over the edge, many couples are successfully able to weather a lousy marriage for a long time. Other than infidelity, I have observed that therapy is often the cause for one spouse to throw... [Read more of this article]
How to respond when your spouse is angry
One of the hardest exercises for couples to do when practicing the Imago dialogue is to validate their spouse. Validation is when, after hearing your spouse express her feelings, you let her know that “what you’re saying makes sense and you make sense.” But it doesn’t make sense! For many, it can be difficult just to say those... [Read more of this article]
How to transform your anger and resentment with your spouse into compassion
My toddler reminded me of an invaluable lesson last night that I wanted to share with you. Although he has learned to sleep the night, it seems that he has been getting in multiple new teeth over the past week and has been routinely waking up in the middle of the night. While I might be exhausted and be upset that I will have another sleepless night,... [Read more of this article]
Video- Creating Harmony in Your Relationships
While it is helpful to read about the Imago dialogue process, here is an opportunity to see how it really works as my wife and I demo a real-life frustration. You will also learn how to apply this model with your children. I recently completed the Imago Parenting training and think you will find this material very helpful in improving your relationships... [Read more of this article]
Marriage Problems and Tunnel Vision
I have noticed an interesting phenomenon when dealing with couples, schools, etc… It often takes the form of a spouse calling me and complaining about his/her partner, how he/she is the problem, etc… and there is basically no way things can change unless the other’s behavior changes. Essentially, if the other doesn’t change,... [Read more of this article]
Sukkos- Achieving Inner Peace
as published in the Where, What, When It’s Friday night, you are invited to a friend’s home for the Shabbos meal. The table was set before chatzos, the children listen attentively to Kiddush and sit quietly at the table throughout the meal. The delicious food was served by the wife as the husband engaged the children in zemiros and divrei Torah.... [Read more of this article]
