How to respond when your spouse is angry
One of the hardest exercises for couples to do when practicing the Imago dialogue is to validate their spouse. Validation is when, after hearing your spouse express her feelings, you let her know that “what you’re saying makes sense and you make sense.” But it doesn’t make sense! For many, it can be difficult just [...]
How to transform your anger and resentment with your spouse into compassion
My toddler reminded me of an invaluable lesson last night that I wanted to share with you. Although he has learned to sleep the night, it seems that he has been getting in multiple new teeth over the past week and has been routinely waking up in the middle of the night. While I might [...]
Video- Creating Harmony in Your Relationships
December 21, 2011 by Shlomo
Filed under Blog, Marriage Enrichment, video
While it is helpful to read about the Imago dialogue process, here is an opportunity to see how it really works as my wife and I demo a real-life frustration. You will also learn how to apply this model with your children. I recently completed the Imago Parenting training and think you will find this [...]
Marriage Problems and Tunnel Vision
I have noticed an interesting phenomenon when dealing with couples, schools, etc… It often takes the form of a spouse calling me and complaining about his/her partner, how he/she is the problem, etc… and there is basically no way things can change unless the other’s behavior changes. Essentially, if the other doesn’t change, nothing will [...]
Sukkos- Achieving Inner Peace
as published in the Where, What, When It’s Friday night, you are invited to a friend’s home for the Shabbos meal. The table was set before chatzos, the children listen attentively to Kiddush and sit quietly at the table throughout the meal. The delicious food was served by the wife as the husband engaged the [...]
Yom Kippur and Restoring Connection
We are now in the midst of the Aseres Y’mei T’shuva, the Ten Days of Repentance between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. I never really liked the translation “repentance” because it seems laced with negativity. I prefer viewing the concept of t’shuva, repentance, as return. T’shuva is returning to G-d, which is in essence returning [...]
Hope for Change
As we approach Rosh Hashana, I wanted to share with you a few thoughts about my trip last month to Latin America for a 2 day Save Your Marriage Intensive. It was quite an amazing experience and it taught me a lot about the potential for healing in even the most difficult situations. Besides the [...]
High Holiday Webinar Video
If you missed the High Holiday Webinar-From Overworked to Overjoyed: How to Plan, Strategize, and Enjoy the High Holidays to the Fullest, no worries And if you WERE on the original call, you know that there were some technical difficulties so we did it again with much more advanced technology, as you’ll see when you [...]
High Holidays Teleclass
I am so excited to announce to you about my upcoming teleclass with my wife, Rivka, a professional organizer and the woman behind jewishlifeorganized.com On this free teleclass you will learn how to plan, strategize, and enjoy your High Holidays to the fullest! We will discuss how to work together as a couple, parenting tips, [...]
9/11 Trauma
Who can’t remember where they were on September 11th, 2001? The unprecedented terrorist attacks on American soil changed the psyche of the American people forever. Whether or not we officially meet the diagnostic criteria for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, many of us may feel a heightened sense of anxiety while flying, or attending large public [...]
