Ami Magazine feature article

June 5, 2013 by  
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Last week’s edition of Ami magazine did an eight page feature on Imago therapy in their Living section Click below to read more 26-33_liv121_feature_margolin

Living with an Angry Spouse

September 11, 2012 by  
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One of the most common yet challenging issues I see when working with couples is anger. Anger is one of the most powerful and most destructive human emotions. The long-term damage it can have on a marriage can be irreparable as it tears apart the trust and safety in a relationship. Here are a few […]

More than just a communication theory

June 26, 2012 by  
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Yesterday, I was invited to guest lecture for the Psyd program’s couple’s counseling class at my alma mater, Loyola College. It was exciting to share the power of Imago with these future therapists. In addition to a live demo that my wife and I did, I centered the talk around a presentation I heard 6 […]

Jewish Talk Radio

May 1, 2012 by  
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I am excited to announce my new weekly show on Jewish Talk Radio. My wife will be the co-host and we are excited to share with you fresh perspectives on relationships.  There are multiple ways to listen to listen to the show including online at and by phone at 832-225-5371 The hour-long show will […]

How to respond when your spouse is angry

January 13, 2012 by  
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One of the hardest exercises for couples to do when practicing the Imago dialogue is to validate their spouse.  Validation is when, after hearing your spouse express her feelings, you let her know that “what you’re saying makes sense and you make sense.” But it doesn’t make sense! For many, it can be difficult just […]

Marriage Problems and Tunnel Vision

December 8, 2011 by  
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I have noticed an interesting phenomenon when dealing with couples, schools, etc… It often takes the form of a spouse calling me and complaining about his/her partner, how he/she is the problem, etc… and there is basically no way things can change unless the other’s behavior changes. Essentially, if the other doesn’t change, nothing will […]

Yom Kippur and Restoring Connection

October 6, 2011 by  
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We are now in the midst of the Aseres Y’mei T’shuva, the Ten Days of Repentance between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. I never really liked the translation “repentance” because it seems laced with negativity. I prefer viewing the concept of t’shuva, repentance, as return. T’shuva is returning to G-d, which is in essence returning […]

Did you marry your “Imago”

July 13, 2011 by  
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If you have been a long time reader, you may be familiar with the concept of the Imago. Imago means image in Latin and the theory posits that when looking for our spouse, each of us has an unconscious image of what we are looking for. This unconscious image is a composite of the positive […]

My response to comments on Did I Marry the Right Person

March 3, 2011 by  
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My recent blogpost “Did I marry the right person” has generated some interesting responses. See below as I reiterate how you actually contribute to your marriage problems and must take responsibility for what you can, even if you feel your spouse is in the wrong.